Yesterday a very dear friend of mine gave me a link to a finnish website where many women of my age were talking about their mothers. I am a seventies child of a mother who was abandoned by her mother when she was only 2 years old. Ever since being abandoned she had to change her home frequently and at the age of 14 she started working as a milking maid.
I was reading the stories of those other ladies of my age and I found a lot of similarities in our lives. Not only did the second world war but also the fact that she did not have anything as a child, influence a lot on my mother. She ended up raising me and my brother in a way she and all those other mothers of her age knew was best, preparing us always for the worst. Our generation had strict parents, punishments and school education was taken seriously.
The next generation, us, thought that we had learned a valuable lesson from our strict parents and that was to be closer with our own children. Something that our parents could not provide us. We wanted to become friends with our children, not only strict educators. The next generation after ours, also so called fast food generation, todays teens and young adults did not experience the severity of growing up as we did. Of course not, we did not want them to. But at the same time as we wanted them to be free and explore the world, something started going the wrong way. The lack of interest on important things as work and responsabilities grew and things were done the easiest possible way. The things were made for us. Children did not make as much effort on education and ready portions of food were prepared in seconds. That left us a lot of time for our new hobbies, social media and video games.
Little by little people started noticing that this kind of lifestyle could not continue. All that ready-made-life had taken it’s toll and people everywhere around the world are now starting to wake up. Hopefully not only too late.
Next time you feel like having something the easy way, think about the price of it. Preparing every day healthy home made food for your children eventually pays off, teaching your children good manners gives them a perspective to respect the other ones, playing with them outside brings them closer to the nature. Instead of living in a world where nothing really matters anymore, as we messed things up, we could put together everything back in order.
A link to the finnish website of motherhood: http://m.vauva.fi/mobiilikeskustelut/index.html#!/ketju/4217894/70_luvulla_syntyneiden_aidit_onko_teilla_muilla_samanlaista
Me and my husband were thinking about the coming christmas time and about the fact that I used to love giving tons of meaningless gifts to our family and friends. I suppose that has been my way of trying to give back everything I could not get as a child, even though I now understand that the time together with my family was much more important than the amount of packages. Instead of running around like crazy one or two months before the christmasday this year we have different plans. A perfect gift can be much more than just a “thing” 🙂
Gaining happiness from objects affords us much less pleasure than another mechanism of happiness, experience.